Going, going, gone...

Learning from the past requires the ability to analyze a multitude of variables. After careful study there are a few variables that seem curiously significant. Laugh all you want, but birth sign plays a role.

With that in mind, I endeavour to seek out certain signs to test my thesis. So far, Libras are bad. So are Aquarius, Aries and Scorpios. Eventually, I hope to determine the signs that work. This way I have a better than average chance of succeeding. Then again, I'm sure I'll discover other meaningful variants that impact the survivability of a relationship.

What's the point?

I'm a huge proponent of relationships, yet I don't "feel" it for myself. 

That thought hangs over me constantly. I realized some time ago that I discovered the wizard behind the curtain. My experiences have shown me things that dishearten me. My conversations with women have opened my eyes. It's hard to be an idealist when my exploits have tarnished my core beliefs.

Why do women cheat?

Different reasons than men mostly. Sure there are similar reasons, but from what I have experienced, witnessed and participated has peeled away another layer of the female mystique.

There's nothing wrong with the men these women cheat on. It's usually something conjured up in their minds. One girl swore to me she was single and no longer seeing her boyfriend. Her boyfriend was unambitious and spoiled. Had everything handed to him. He was boring. Fortunately for me I don't take anything women say as gospel. I read between the lines. Highly subjective creatures women. 

Usually a woman cannot explain why they do it. I can. They are cowards. Men cheat for completely different reasons. Women use it as a method to be prepared to break up, or cause a break up or other insidious reasons. They don't do it because they are always neglected or a man cannot take care of them. Sure there are men that prey on women who are experiencing challenging times in their relationships. But I look deeper. 

It's simpler when we each get what we want

Occurs to me that the best interactions, I use that in place of relationships, are simplest when each participant knows, and gets, what they want. I have had a multitude of these. I've had the more societally accepted relationships as well. 

As I walk through many cities alone and observe the various cultures, we are more similar than not. Couples. Everyone's a couple. All at various points in their relationship cycle. I sometimes feel as if I have become too aware. My awareness leads me to simplicity.

Players

All of us play parts at different times throughout our relationships. Often times, the beginning of a relationship is largely a series of false, controlled impressions designed to achieve a desired result: attract the other person. It's no wonder that so many relationships fail after a period of time. Funny enough, many of us have no interest in the "real" person initially. We all have expectations that we project onto others. Everyone is afraid to be themselves. 

Insecurities

History, paranoia, our own weaknesses and transgressions form our insecurities. "The thief never trusts anyone else" applies. I've often wondered why people are so insecure in their relationships. Maybe for good reason. But I wonder, do they manifest that which they fear most. People who fear infidelity - do they drive their partner to that? In that case, both parties have culpability.

Can't decide

There are women I have slept with in the past and every now and then I have a craving for them. It's really strange I think. It's like craving a certain cuisine or being "in the mood for..."

Yes, I'm comparing women to food. There's much in common between the two :) You can figure that out for yourself.