Men AND Women are from Earth...

OK, so I haven't read the book, but I will say this - Men and Women are more alike than not. I have many theses on many topics, but my thesis on this one is:

Individual insecurity, our own self-absorption and our own ability to recover and move on, have more to do with our interpersonal relationships as do our level of maturity, relationship experience and our then-current state of mind!!! 

There are men I cannot understand, just as there are women I cannot. I have two women in my life I consider true friends - I'll talk about the definition of friendship another day - and I get them. I can relate. They get me, even in my craziest times. 

book 1...

Everything has a beginning. Many guys, I should say, newly single guys seem to think I have answers or guidance for them. Maybe they're right. (notice I used the correct "they're"). For me, I was never really comfortable approaching women, talking to women or even asking them out. 

What seemed like the worse movie ever made, next to Ishtar, was  called "Knockaround Guys". This scene was an epiphany. About 1 minute into the scene Vin Diesel does his bit. It made me realize I had to learn.  It was a lesson I have learned or been taught many many times. 

I started to make an effort to go to the same places 3 -4 time every week. My only goal was to say "Hello" and if I could muster up the courage (which came from Vodka Martinis) I'd strike up a conversation. What I learned real quick, was NOT trying to pick women up worked best! 

addendum...

I should also say, an insight into the male psyche (mine specifically!)

where it all began...

In order to give you context to how and why I got here, I thought you MAY want some general information about myself. The information is factual, lol, unfortunately.

I'm a 40 year old male. Depending on who you ask, how I am dressed and whether I shave or not, I look young for my age. I have been single for about two years now. I was in a highly volatile, co-dependent relationship for many years. You know, it was the kind where when we'd break up my friends would start a pool to bet when we'd get back together. This relationship deserves it's own blog because there is much to learn from it.

When I became single again I had to figure out how in the world I would meet women. Now you have to understand, I was 38, I lived in my friend's guest bedroom and I was unemployed. I found this funny because I felt like George Costanza.

Despite my circumstances, I decided to go out into the world and find me a woman!

why

Everyone I know, even those that I've dated, have been urging me to write a book. I say "HA." Never gonna happen. But, after much thought and deliberation I have decided a blog might be fun. The purpose is to share my experiences (some funny, some strange, and some very rated X), answer dating questions (because the fact is I think I've become very good at it) and finally, give my insights into the psyche of the many, many, many women I have encountered.

I hope you enjoy it. 

Please note, there will be subject matter not meant for younger viewers :-)